Dating Tips please?

Dating is like sales - there is no right or wrong way to do it - it just depends on the person, situation and atmosphere. You have to be able to adjust to what is happening and the reaction - going in like a bull in a china shop doesn't work. Its being subtle with things said and watching for reactions with what is said, body language and looks. Though I haven't been on a date in years its all the same priciple as such building a rapport, trust and common bond.

Oh yeah and don't look for the 'sale' that way you'll appear desperate and it will show in your mannerisms. Though it may seem dead - don't lose faith it may just need a bit of tweeking

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Originally Posted by noisy_lightning

[quote author=roxychick link=1267131759/150#157 date=1268341139][quote author=callum link=1267131759/150#152 date=1268314921]

What most men want at the end of the evening is some kind of reassurance that she wants to see them again. It’s the whole ego stroking need that us guys have! (Roxy will know about this! And I bet she's an expert at exploiting this flaw in the male species!!)

Callum, just for the record and to save you getting another mouthful from me in the future..refrain from making assumptions about the type of person I am and how I treat guys.


“Hey tonight was fun, I’ll drop you a text when I get a chance and you can let me know which Michelin star restaurant you want to take me to later in the week.”

to be honest, if a guy said what you had suggested at the end of a date with me, I would think he was so far up his own ar*e that I wouldn't want to see him again. I would much rather be told that he likes me, enjoyed my company and would like to do it again sometime if I wanted to...after all what's wrong with being honest...where the hell does all this game playing come from. >:(

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Billy, It's up to you where you take advice from but personally I think this guy is way off the mark IMO!!!! Run for the hills billy!!! ;D

roxy [smiley=thumbsup.gif][/quote]

+1

Well if anything has been learnt by me tonight, it is that Roxy is not a person I should be messing with........... :-?
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Yeah i got a mouthful from her the other day as well..........she has got balls i will give her that ;D

Well said Stu [smiley=thumbsup.gif]

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Originally Posted by slowr1der

[quote author=noisy_lightning link=1267131759/150#158 date=1268341340][quote author=roxychick link=1267131759/150#157 date=1268341139][quote author=callum link=1267131759/150#152 date=1268314921]

What most men want at the end of the evening is some kind of reassurance that she wants to see them again. It’s the whole ego stroking need that us guys have! (Roxy will know about this! And I bet she's an expert at exploiting this flaw in the male species!!)

Callum, just for the record and to save you getting another mouthful from me in the future..refrain from making assumptions about the type of person I am and how I treat guys.


“Hey tonight was fun, I’ll drop you a text when I get a chance and you can let me know which Michelin star restaurant you want to take me to later in the week.”

to be honest, if a guy said what you had suggested at the end of a date with me, I would think he was so far up his own ar*e that I wouldn't want to see him again. I would much rather be told that he likes me, enjoyed my company and would like to do it again sometime if I wanted to...after all what's wrong with being honest...where the hell does all this game playing come from. >:(

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Billy, It's up to you where you take advice from but personally I think this guy is way off the mark IMO!!!! Run for the hills billy!!! ;D

roxy [smiley=thumbsup.gif][/quote]

+1

Well if anything has been learnt by me tonight, it is that Roxy is not a person I should be messing with........... :-?
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Yeah i got a mouthful from her the other day as well..........she has got balls i will give her that ;D[/quote]

Dave I think you know you're pretty safe mate :-*

and slowr1der.... ;)

LOL

something I said? Lol

no not at all mate..I think you're ok! [smiley=thumbsup.gif]

oh no now we are gonna start the 'get a room' comments again lol

and so it all begins again!!!! ;D ;)

Go Billy Go!!! ;D

a room an a bottle of ether.....she never shuts up lol ..........only jokin rox

I was thinking more along the lines of a bottle of chloroform lol.....:......only messing Roxy

yibbida yibbida ::)

lets hope Billyboy reads the advice!

EL OH EL

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Originally Posted by roxychick

[quote author=callum link=1267131759/150#152 date=1268314921]

What most men want at the end of the evening is some kind of reassurance that she wants to see them again. It’s the whole ego stroking need that us guys have! (Roxy will know about this! And I bet she's an expert at exploiting this flaw in the male species!!)

Callum, just for the record and to save you getting another mouthful from me in the future..refrain from making assumptions about the type of person I am and how I treat guys.


“Hey tonight was fun, I’ll drop you a text when I get a chance and you can let me know which Michelin star restaurant you want to take me to later in the week.”

to be honest, if a guy said what you had suggested at the end of a date with me, I would think he was so far up his own ar*e that I wouldn't want to see him again. I would much rather be told that he likes me, enjoyed my company and would like to do it again sometime if I wanted to...after all what's wrong with being honest...where the hell does all this game playing come from. >:(

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Roxy

How about sharing with us some interesting and useful facts about what women look for in an ideal fella....

If I asked what are the 5 most important traits you look for in a guy what woukd they be?

Oh, and I never made an assumptions about you, so apologies if that's how it came across in my email.

I come in peace :)

C

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Originally Posted by callum

Roxy

How about sharing with us some interesting and useful facts about what women look for in an ideal fella....

If I asked what are the 5 most important traits you look for in a guy what woukd they be?

Oh, and I never made an assumptions about you, so apologies if that's how it came across in my email.

I come in peace :)

C

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Yeah c'mon roxy help us out because, as we all know, all women are exactly the same and are looking for the same thing in a man. We could print it out as a check list when going on a date and tick each one off as we go. The woman would be powerless to resist. :D

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Originally Posted by callum

Roxy

I come in peace :)

C

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Yeah but if u pis her of mate u will be leaving in pieces ;) ;)

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Originally Posted by slowr1der

[quote author=callum link=1267131759/165#173 date=1268381522]Roxy

I come in peace :)

C

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Yeah but if u pis her of mate u will be leaving in pieces ;) ;)[/quote]


;D ;D

Callum you're the so called 'expert' with the company..you tell us!

I am in two minds over the two views displayed by Roxy and Callum.

With Callum's stance; I guess I feel uneasy with the tactics side of his arguement, ie one is trying to 'play' the person to ones advantage, but in his defence, some really great people are really crap at dating and may well need help! Must admit the bit about 'restaurants' seemed a bit poncy...but I agree with the' last minute' observation being critical! To me it sounds like a modification of good interview technique.

Roxy's stance; I guess I am in her camp, as ultimatly I would hope a potential partner would 'like what they see' and be attracted by the whole person and not an act put on to ensnare them...as any 'act' will be found out later on when the person gets to know you.

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Originally Posted by finbar

I am in two minds over the two views displayed by Roxy and Callum.

With Callum's stance; I guess I feel uneasy with the tactics side of his arguement, ie one is trying to 'play' the person to ones advantage, but in his defence, some really great people are really crap at dating and may well need help! Must admit the bit about 'restaurants' seemed a bit poncy...but I agree with the' last minute' observation being critical! To me it sounds like a modification of good interview technique.

Roxy's stance; I guess I am in her camp, as ultimatly I would hope a potential partner would 'like what they see' and be attracted by the whole person and not an act put on to ensnare them...as any 'act' will be found out later on when the person gets to know you.

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But dating is a form of interview - instead of getting a job you get on the job at the end.

I can see things what Callum does can help as its down to boosting confidence and not having awkward silences - so can fill the space with a few cheesy lines - but they'll improve with practice and change to your personality. But like the sales academy training they may go for 2 days but if you get 2 bits of info out of the 100's given that helps you.....its worked.

For those that know me I am bold as brass and really outspoken, talk to anyone, can control conversations yet still listen - kinda a requirement of my job but I used to be shy and would prefer to be the 'grey' man - it was one of my squaddy mates that taught me how to bring out the best in me when out clubbing/ dating and now I use it in everyday life just slightly changed - I now close the sale instead of the bedroom door ;)

Cor blimey.....roxy what have you got into here lmao......this is all very interesting stuff and also very amusing......i just hope everyone finds what they are looking for before they're too old to enjoy it lol....happy hunting guys and girls lol....hugs to ya roxy xx
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Originally Posted by Tina

Cor blimey.....roxy what have you got into here lmao......this is all very interesting stuff and also very amusing......i just hope everyone finds what they are looking for before they're too old to enjoy it lol....happy hunting guys and girls lol....hugs to ya roxy xx
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hugs straight back at ya chick!! :)

A friend told me last night that I should be 'internet dating' as that is was 'everyone' is doing these days! Having been in a long term relationship unti just recently, I hadn't realised how much has changed in the dating scene - I remember the days when you just met someone, got talking and the rest just followed in due course. Some friends of mine met their partners through singles events and through the internet, but they had to meet quite a few frogs before meeting their prince!!

I suppose it's all good fun really - just sounds like a lot of effort - doing profile, e-mailing, texting, meeting, etc.. etc.. I liked the good old days when everything just seemed so much easier. Anyone else had luck with internet dating?

Hi Nokesy

Your friend is correct.
Internet dating has a number of advantages over the 'good old days' and let's consider them here:

1) You can select potential partners based on criteria that match your needs, such as education, religion, hobbies, looks etc.
2) All of this can be achieved without a lengthy conversation.
3) There's no pressure. You can email someone who you find attractive without the 'pre-match' nerves you may get when thinking of approaching someone in a bar.

And all of this can be achieved from the comfort of your own home.

My tip would be to take it easy, relax and enjoy the experience.

When you agree to meet someone, only ever agree to meet as friends, and only for a short time, say one drink. That way if the 'chemistry' is sadly missing neither of you waste loads of time.
It also take the pressure off what some people may see as a stressful situation.

Don't get hung up if someone doesn't email you back or if after a meeting they don't want to see you again. There are millions of potential partners out there and internet dating opens up the choice.

I'll be writing loads more on this subject on the free hints and tips email on my site and also the blog is scheduled to start next week so will post the details on here.

Happy internet dating.
Callum

www.TipsForDating.co.uk

Call me old fashioned. But, What ever happend to the art of conversation in chatting up a girl/lady having to balls to go up to them & speak.

Then crash & burn as she turns you down & mates fall about laughing. few pints try again different girl. None of this selecting girls like sweets in shop

Sing along to the tune of Madness (Baggy Trousers)
Oh what fun we had did it really seem that bad trying different ways to get a girl into your bed ;D :D ;D

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Originally Posted by callum

Hi Nokesy

Your friend is correct.
Internet dating has a number of advantages over the 'good old days' and let's consider them here:

1) You can select potential partners based on criteria that match your needs, such as education, religion, hobbies, looks etc.
2) All of this can be achieved without a lengthy conversation.
3) There's no pressure. You can email someone who you find attractive without the 'pre-match' nerves you may get when thinking of approaching someone in a bar.

And all of this can be achieved from the comfort of your own home.

My tip would be to take it easy, relax and enjoy the experience.

When you agree to meet someone, only ever agree to meet as friends, and only for a short time, say one drink. That way if the 'chemistry' is sadly missing neither of you waste loads of time.
It also take the pressure off what some people may see as a stressful situation.

Don't get hung up if someone doesn't email you back or if after a meeting they don't want to see you again. There are millions of potential partners out there and internet dating opens up the choice.

I'll be writing loads more on this subject on the free hints and tips email on my site and also the blog is scheduled to start next week so will post the details on here.

Happy internet dating.
Callum

www.TipsForDating.co.uk

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there he goes again with the website plug ::)

well have u signed up yet Roxy?

Should be struck off !!!!!!!! :o

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Originally Posted by slowr1der

well have u signed up yet Roxy?

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are you having a laugh?? :o ;D

Im a moderator on a UK/international biking /dating site and i can tell you now i have had a few problems to sort out and one was a very serious allegation involving two people.

It can be great and you meet loads of bikers and can travel but there are certain rules that concern safety so if you do join one read them and they apply to male /female
There has been a few past members of this website which have been on the web site i moderate on.
Nope im not saying who!

it was me I confess........

www.iamintoanalsex.com

Please don't tell anyone I could find myself in deep ****e again

Slowr1der you are a nightmare!! ;D ;D

Billy has gone really quiet..you think he is ok?..I think we have frightened him off for life! well that or he has taken callum tips on board and got lucky!

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Originally Posted by slowr1der

it was me I confess........

www.iamintoanalsex.com

Please don't tell anyone I could find myself in deep ****e again

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errrmmm think your using the wrong hole ;D

Stu, will be at GW tomoz to drop bike off for service so will come over and say hi

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Originally Posted by nico_stew

Stu, will be at GW tomoz to drop bike off for service so will come over and say hi

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I'm only in for about 30 mins tomorrow as on holiday......dedication going in on my day off!!!

But if you're in around 9 feel free to say hi 8-)

does that count as a date?

Its in the dating tips thread.

What do u think Roxy lol

Nah a date would need to be longer than 30 min LOL LOL [smiley=thumbsup.gif]

Do you know what slowr1der......I think the words are...

GET A ROOM GUYS!!!! pmsl!!!

30 min!! Hardly worth the room. Stu, I will meet you in the store room bud [smiley=thumbsup.gif]

Lol I am only messing tis all good fun

Roxy u had best get ur makeup just right on Sunday if u want me to take ya out again ya know lol

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Originally Posted by nico_stew

30 min!! Hardly worth the room. Stu, I will meet you in the store room bud [smiley=thumbsup.gif]

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Its a date lol [smiley=thumbsup.gif] ;)