It sounds weird, but works really well - find yourself a nice wide empty road if you can, to try it. Ride along at a modest speed, say between 30-40mph in a straight line, and try pushing either bar very gently - as you push the right bar away from you, the bike turns to the right, likewise for a push on the left bar - it's how to initiate a turn with absolutely minmal effort, and you'll find that all you need to do is guide the bike where you want it. Take time to practice it :)
The last thing I'd want to do is to sound patronising, but who taught you to ride? Did you do DAS? It doesn't sound to me, from reading your posts, that they spent much time on teaching you the basics of actually riding a bike...
