Hi Billy
Morticia and Scotty are correct in what they say. Although their coaching methods/styles are very different!
Jacde, I do have a dating help site, at the moment for guys, but have a colleague (female) who is working on one for gals. However over 6,000 views does indicate that this thread is popular!!
There's a few clear points here that you need to work on. However it does seem a little like you're very keen on dating and wanting to find a partner.
You need to relax a lot more on the whole dating scene. Instead of going out on a 'date' think of it as a 'social meeting' for a drink, a chat and a laugh.
Then if it goes well you can repeat the exercise. But it's not a date. In fact it's a great thing to say to someone before as it takes away the pressure. Especially true if someones not dated for a while. Maybe they've come out of a long relationship or similar.
Also a couple of points from your explanation:
1) Pacing
When you get into the whole texting and phoning situation there's a real chance you can screw-up by being perceived as 'too keen' or 'too available.'
As a rule pace!
If you text her and she takes 15 minutes to reply, you then wait a similar period before texting back.
Also think about being a little random with your texts and calls. Remember 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' she needs to be 'missing you' a little.
2) Independant
You say in your email that she's been single a while.
Think about what being single means:
It means you can get do what the heck you like in your own time. You can go out on your bike when it suits you. you can watch the footy on TV. You can leave your ironing in a big heap on the sofa. Or you can clean your house so it looks like a showhome!
The point I'm making is that it brings FREEDOM.
And if you txt/phone all the time and start mentioning weekends away you're changing the status quo.
The FREEDOM is at RISK!
She may or may not realise this and often it's at a sub-conscious level, but the fact remains it will 'chip away' at someone who's been on their own a long time.
Check out the blog as today's posting discusses this in more detail:
http://tips-for-dating-uk.blogspot.com/
Overall though relax about the whole thing.
Go for drinks with some nice ladies.
On the second meeting take them for drink and maybe something different like 10 pin bowling.
Take them for dinner on the 3rd meeting.
But don't talk about weekends away or walking hand in hand on a Caribbean beach!! It's all way too soon.
It will come, all in good time.
Callum
